For most people life can be …tricky, a little difficult to grasp, and more than a little tedious. Work, family, politics, religion, money…its tough. But for women, its even more difficult, because they are women, because they were born into a society that has placed women in certain boxes, and one that makes leaving these boxes quite hard. Heaven forbid a woman would want to do something outside of what is expected of her. Its hard because of things like Mommy wars, and the representation of women in media, in film and music in advertising and fucking newspapers.
But whats even worse than knowing, as a woman, that you are going to be sexualized, cat called, slut shamed, flirted with by men older than your father, made uncomfortable in public spaces because you have breasts and an ass, and basically treated like you shouldn’t complain about any of this, is the over used excuse that so people throw out there like its actually going to heal this problem….the ‘That’s just life‘ comment.
Is this Life?
Is this any way to live?
Because I don’t think that comment is a suitable answer to these problems. When I complain about cat calling, telling me ‘it’s just the way life is‘ is not at all acknowledging a serious issue here, if anything its adding to the problem. In a similar way that the ‘Black Lives Matter‘ movement was turned into the ‘All Lives Matter‘ debate, it simply ignores the problem, and simultaneously tells people to just deal with it. Yes, all lives do matter, but saying that doesn’t mean that Black lives matter the same as white lives. Saying it only tells people to shut the fuck up about their problems and move on, cause that’s just life, get over it already.
Well, no actually, I’m not willing to do that. I wont smile politely as some jackass tells me my butt looks good as I walk down the street. I wont grit my teeth and keep my mouth shut when an older gentlemen who stares at my breasts while greeting me makes me feel uncomfortable. This is not life, its hierarchy at its best, its men’s problems matter more than women’s. It’s women need to just accept that they are sexual beings, who will always be seen as objects there for male satisfaction. And that, is not life, its a social construct within life that makes life really fucking tedious!